How to Bond With Your Child

How to Bond With Your Child
April 28, 2022

If you are a parent who has gone through a divorce, you may be asking how do you bond with your child now that you may not be seeing them as often. 

While it can be difficult for families to adjust to life after a divorce, the good news is that there are several things you can do to ensure that you and your child maintain a close and healthy relationship. Keep reading to get some helpful tips on how to bond with your child after a divorce. 

Be Open to Having Conversations About the Divorce

Talk to your child about the divorce

Once you have come to the decision to divorce, it is important to have an open conversation with your child about what this means for your family. Even though the divorce may be amicable, your child is likely to feel confused and uncertain about the future. 

By talking openly about the divorce and answering your child's questions honestly, you can help to ease their fears and maintain a strong relationship with them. It is also important to keep the lines of communication open after the divorce. 

Let your child know that they can come to you with any concerns or questions they may have. By remaining accessible and supportive, you can help your child through this difficult time and emerge from the divorce with a strong relationship.

Encourage Your Child to Express Their Feelings

It's no secret that divorce can be tough on families. In addition to the emotional upheaval, there is also the challenge of learning to co-parent in a new way. 

One of the best things you can do to help your child through this transition is to encourage them to express their feelings. This doesn't mean that you need to encourage them to dwell on the negative, but it is important to give them the space to process what they are going through. 

In addition, listening to your child and being open to their feelings will help you maintain a strong relationship with them after the divorce. by showing that you are interested in their thoughts and feelings, you are sending the message that you value their opinion and that you care about them. 

Find a Hobby or Activity You and Your Child Can Enjoy Together

One of the most difficult things about divorce is finding a way to maintain a strong relationship with your child when you no longer live together. It can be hard to come up with quality time activities when you only have limited time with them. That’s why finding a hobby or activity that you and your child can enjoy together can be so valuable. It gives you something to bond over and provides a chance for some much-needed quality time. It can be anything from playing sports to taking dance classes together. 

The important thing is that it’s something that both of you will enjoy and that will give you a chance to reconnect. With effort and patience, you can find ways to overcome the challenges of divorce and build a strong bond with your child.

Be an Active Listener During Conversations 

As we’ve already discussed, being able to have important conversations with your child is one of the best ways to build and maintain a strong connection. At the same time, however, your ability to listen is a very important part of the equation. 

When your child is talking to you, make sure to give them your full attention. Put away any distractions, make eye contact, and really listen to what they're saying. Show that you're interested in what they have to say by asking follow-up questions and responding thoughtfully.

Active listening shows your child that you value their thoughts and feelings, which can help to build trust and strengthen your bond. Additionally, being an active listener can also help you to avoid miscommunications and disagreements. So next time your child sits down to talk with you, make sure to really listen. It could make all the difference. 

Don’t Bad Mouth Your Child’s Other Parent 

Bad-mouthing your ex can negatively impact your relationship with your child

It's natural to feel angry and hurt after a divorce, especially if your ex was the one who initiated it. However, it's important to remember that your children still love both of their parents, even if you don't. Bad-mouthing your ex in front of your kids can damage your relationship with your child as well as their relationship with their other parent. On top of that, hearing negative comments could make them feel caught in the middle. 

Additionally, it sets a bad example for your children about how to handle conflict and resolve disagreements. It's okay to express your feelings to your friends or family, but try to avoid doing so in front of your kids. When you're around them, focus on speaking positively about their other parent. By doing so, you can help your children maintain a healthy relationship with both of their parents.

Be a Consistent Presence in Your Child’s Life

It can be difficult for children to adjust to the idea of their parents getting divorced. In many cases, they may feel like they are losing one or both of their parents. It is important for divorcing parents to be as consistent as possible in their child's life. This means maintaining the same routines and rules, being present for important milestones, and being available to listen to their concerns. 

By being a consistent presence in their lives, parents can help reassure their children that they are still loved and valued. This can go a long way toward rebuilding the bond between parent and child after divorce. 

Consider Going to Therapy

After a divorce, it can be difficult to maintain a close relationship with your child. You may feel like you're pulling in different directions, or that you're not sure how to connect with your child anymore. Going to therapy can help you build a stronger bond with your child. 

In therapy, you'll learn how to communicate effectively, set boundaries, and resolve conflict. You'll also have the opportunity to explore your feelings about the divorce and learn how to express them in a healthy way. As a result, therapy can help you create a foundation for a strong and lasting relationship with your child.

Divorce Doesn’t Have to Dictate Your Relationship With Your Child

Just because you and your spouse’s relationship is over doesn’t mean that your relationship with your child has to suffer. After all, nothing is more important than a parents bond with their child. By keeping these tips in mind, you can maintain a strong connection with your child which will make it easier for both of you to adjust to your new normal.

If you and your ex are struggling to get on the same page, our divorce mediation in Toronto and Vaughan may be able to help. Contact us today to learn more about our services.

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